Growing up we learn the importance of sharing, the principal of it is engrained into our brains. Despite being conditioned to share from the earliest formative years of our lives, I must admit that as an adult I often feel like the bad kid in class who refuses to cooperate. It’s not that I hate sharing, in fact, I love to share many things in my life. However, when it comes to my bags, I just cannot get on board with loaning my collection out to even my dearest friends and family.
[sc_ic_ad1]Despite the fact that I trust (most of) my friends and family, I cannot get on board with lending my beautiful bags to anyone, even for a short period of time. While this may look selfish from the outside, I have my own personal reasons for setting this boundary. As an avid bag lover and collector, I take special care of my bags and do everything in my control to preserve their condition. I never put my bags on the floor and am always especially mindful of my bag when I am out and about. The last thing I would want is for a friend or family member to accidentally damage one of my bags and create a reason for me to be resentful over it.
I work really hard to be able to have my collection of bags and every time I buy a bag, I know I am making the decision to own something that is astronomically priced (designer bag problems, right?). Just because I am willing to drop four-figures on a bag doesn’t mean that I expect the people in my life to spend the same amount, which is another reason I don’t like to share from my collection. If a bag was ever damaged by another person, I would expect that item to be replaced, and I just don’t want to get into that territory with my loved ones. I would just feel too uncomfortable asking for a replacement, which is reason enough not to lend a bag out.
What about you? Do you share your bags or do you have a strict no-borrow policy like I do?
It never comes down to making that decision for me. F&F have asked me but as soon as I say “sure but just be aware that Kelly, Chanel flap or croc Birkin is worth X” they retreat immediately since the implication is you can borrow it but you are also responsible for it. I’m pretty sure their thoughts about it don’t end there but that’s the last I hear of it anyway.
I’ll only share with my sister, who is fully aware of how much bags cost and how carefully I treat them. She’ll typically avoid borrowing the Chanels, and will stick with a Gucci or YSL (mostly because she herself would be panicked about damaging one of my bags). 🙂
I have loaned bags to my adult daughter, but she takes forever to return them. ?
I only share my bags with my daughter
I mean sooner or later will be hers
I share bags with my mom if I do, this happens very seldom but there’s a history of borrowing bags both ways. She knows and understands, others don’t and they actually don’t even ask because they know if they mess up, it’ll cost them a lot.
Never, like EVER!
Yes I share with friends who take care of their own stuff. I’ve offered my bags to friends, not waiting for them to ask. They are expensive, but they are just objects so in the end you’re not taking them with you. Be kind and share some happiness while you can.
That is a great attitude.
Unless it’s one of my cheapie bags from Amazon, (in my late Whitney Houston) hell to the no.
No, no, no. Don’t bother to ask.
Depends on the condition of the bag. If the bag is still in pristine condition, I don’t. If it’s a little beat up, yes I do.
I do share with my sisters. But not my Holy Grail 😀
I don’t have any friends… so I can’t share.
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Nope, never. My family knows I don’t share.
My family and friends typically don’t have the habit of sharing bags with anyone. Myself, included. Many years ago, my mom was on the verge of giving me her LV Alma PM in this gorgeous epi leather because the zipper had turned rusty and she didn’t want to use it anymore. She changed her mind shortly thereafter and commented that the style of the bag was too matronly for someone as young as I was. For the record, I was already in my late 20s at the time. Go figure 🙂 I never knew what she did with said top handle.
I have cheap bags and expensive designer bags. The inexpensive ones..sure! The premium designers? Hell, to the NO!
I tried lending one once and I was so nervous what might happen to it. Fortunately, my friend sensed my neurosis and returned it right away without using it 🙂
Who shares bags, ever?
Absolutely not. I have given some really nice bags in pristine condition to my mom, and when she’s done with them (and this is totally her call; she can keep them forever as far as I’m concerned!) she gives them back to me to sell. But lend them to someone? No.
Only with my daughter. Never with friends
My mom and I share with each other – we’re both careful with our belongings but also know little scratches/wear is inevitable.
My priority of keeping bags pristine has changed over time because after having kids I made the conscious decision to use my bags and not get too fussed about them (within reason), and thus far haven’t regretted it. To me, the odd smudge on my trench (which comes out in the wash) or tiny sticky finger mark on my Birkin (which wipes right off) is worth the life I get to actually *live* with the people I love while using the things I love.
Likewise – it’s worth it to see the joy my mom gets from a “new to her” bag for the trade off of a *tiny* chance my bag may look *slightly* more used upon return.
However, I understand the hesitation to lend and I think it’s wise to know what may cause resentment and to avoid those potentially messy situations.
I dont loan bags or let family borrow them (my family does not take care of anything especially if they did not spend their money on it) so I end up loving my bags and wearing them until I have gotten my use or until Iam just ready for something new. Then I give to my siblings.
my LV ‘s or Leather Prada- never. Coach ok?u
There’s only one person I would lend my bags to – she’s a very good friend who has her own high end bags and knows how much things cost, plus I know she takes good care of her own items.
I wouldn’t THINK to ask to borrow anyone else’s bags, and therefore don’t feel bad about not sharing mine. Fortunately my Family & Friends are of the same mindset.